Have you gone to a therapist and/or a coach in the past to find out how to understand your problems and what to do so that you can achieve what it is that you truly desire?    Have you walked away from these experiences having learned a lot but you’re still wondering about how to STOP your negative patterns and know what TO DO INSTEAD THAT ARE NOT PLATITUDES, BUT ACTIONS THAT CREATE POSITIVE OUTCOMES.

 

Years ago, a client said, “I think I feel…” and it struck me:  how do we think about how we feel?   As a therapist in private practice, I began to share with my clients how I was trained and practiced to help someone with their emotions therapeutically.   Instead of playing the “tell me more” game (as I saw it after a few years), I would go right to explaining the history, the role of the brain, and the ways to look at how humans organize their disorganized emotional lives.  From there, I developed questions for my clients so that they could gain quicker and deeper insights into their patterns.  As this work developed, Plan C Strategies emerged.

After years of study, training and practice, I developed a way to communicate to people in an intelligent way about their feelings.  Plan C Strategies is an easy mental brain “game” so that my clients alter how they think and communicate without compromising their individuality and uniqueness.

With Plan C Strategies, you will:

Learn how to see your current inner communication patterns with yourself —  because that’s often the most toxic conversations you have with anyone —  and shift to kind, productive and intelligent inner talk.

Learn how to understand how to see what is really happening and what you can do to make positive changes in any situation or with any relationship.

If life is good, but your stressed out, you will learn how to live exactly the same life you’re living now without stress and non-stop frustration and fear and worry.

If you know, deep-inside, that you want to make serious changes, you will learn how to honor the difficulties of facing truths and speaking up so that these changes are positive for everyone involved.

In addition, you will be presented with critical information that describes in simple terms how to understand and deal with your fears:

 

  • brain development and processes
  • Four Components of the Human Experience
  • Thematic vs. Situational Problem Solving
  • specific, individualized exercises and actions
  • recommended readings

 

 


 

Fear happens.  Our brains are hard-wired to be on constant alert for threats to our survival.  Once fear detects a threat, worry follows fear.  

No matter what’s happening in your life, the most stressful thing you deal with are the conversations you have with yourself inside your own brain about your past, present or future

Life in the 21st century is scary.   The 24/7 cycle we are all on.    With the proliferation of technology and social media impacting our professional and personal lives , figuring out how to handle the stress is more complicated than ever before.  Where to begin?  With your own inner thoughts, your monkey mind, your worry.  It all starts with you.

Your negative thoughts about everything in your life create your experience of what is happening.  How to control them?

The conversations you have with yourself are the one thing that you can control 

 

 

Begin by breathing in and out slowly.  Right now.  Sit up straight.  Smile.  Breathe in.  Breathe out.  Sit up straight and smile.

Seriously.  That’s it.  It has been scientifically proven (Mirroring People,  by Marco Iacoboni, 2008) that smiling creates positive responses deep within the brain of the person smiling, as well as any one looking at the person who is smiling.

What most people worry about boils down to:

  1.  I/he/she/they are not good enough.
  2.  I am in this alone/I will get old alone.
  3.  The future is dark and filled with negative outcomes.
  4. The past is right here right now and the pain still affects me in profoundly negative ways and I hope I don’t screw up the future.

Breathing feeds the brain much needed oxygen and slows down the heart rate, calming the entire nervous system.

 

Sitting up straight.  Because you shouldn’t schlump.

Think about breathing.  Think about smiling.  Think about sitting up straight.  Breathe.  Smile.  Sit up straight.

Have you worried in the past minute?  No.   Why?  Because you made a conscious decision to breathe, smile and sit up straight and focused your attention.

 

  1.  Fear happens.  2.  Worry follows.  3.  Worry are negative thoughts.  4.  You can control your thoughts by observing your fear and worry, breathing in and out, smiling and calming your body’s fear reactions and worried thoughts.